Make a list of things you can eat and things you really shouldn't eat. Ask her if she can make 3/4 of the menu things that you can eat or eat parts of them . Such as meat and cheese trays which'll be fine if you skip the bread or if she has whole grain options available. Green Salad w/ Italian dressing, seafood like shrimp cocktail (skip the sauce). Have lots of veggies with a protein rich dip like Ranch made with low fat mayo and sour cream and no added sugar. Deviled eggs again use low fat or no fat mayo. Avoid pre-made appetizers like mini quiches and breaded items like coconut shrimp. A fruit salad or fruit skewers with a yogurt dressing or dipping sauce on the side. Garnola, fruit & yogurt parfaits.